Wednesday, December 04, 2019

In RETIREMENT Mode

My "happy place" Whiskeytown Lake - Nov 1, 2019



I can't believe my last post was October 29. Yeah, a lot has been going on and I guess time flies when the shit hits the fan.

Let's see:

Navy and Sara moved into their new apartment on Oct 29. Poor kids didn't have much after losing a lot of furniture from the flooding. So it was an easy move. HOWEVER, they still had the old apartment to clean up. Yeah, you heard me. It was a totaled mess but the PM still wanted them to haul out all their ruined furniture. They had to sift down into the insulation, to retrieve items. Wearing masks didn't always help. Plus we had some very hot days and since the flooding ruined the electricity in the apartment, there was no AC or lighting. All this had to be done during the day. They gave them a month. Navy, Sara, and Foodie turned in their keys, the day after Thanksgiving. In return, they were given a paper to list the monetary value of what they had lost. Foodie said he thinks they pay .40 to the dollar. They are waiting now for the payout.

Meanwhile, a rift between Foodie and Navy over MONEY owed has stifled their relationship. I think they are just sick of each other - it doesn't even amount to $400 but both said they didn't ever want to see each other again. WOW! Then the PM gave a check for the deposit to Sara and Navy even though Foodie's name was on the lease - and he has checks made out to the PM. So now he wants to take the PM to small claims court.

We did manage to get together for Thanksgiving on the Sat after. Everyone was working on Thursday. All went well, between everyone so there is HOPE.

At the end of October, the husband decided to just take the whole month of November off. So, we've been "practicing" and it hasn't gone as well, as it did when he took the month of June off to help me after my surgery. I guess it takes a while - I feel encroached upon. Like in the kitchen, all of a sudden he is taking it upon himself, to change things around without even talking to me about it. Silly stuff like where the bowls go, and where the plastic storage containers should go.  We've done a lot of nit-picky arguing on stupid stuff.

So far December seems a little better - hopefully, we can get a routine, we both can live with, or I may be getting a job or a major volunteer job that has me out of the house every day! I know he doesn't want me to do that - so he better just lighten up. He is not my Chief. (He was a Master Chief Petty Officer in the Navy and Coast Guard) I am sure we will work through it. We've always got along before. It's just now, time off is FOREVER.

Yesterday was his official retirement date. We are officially retired.

My niece texted me that she is in recovery for a cocaine habit. WONDERFUL! They just bought a $500,000 home and moved in, the first of November. I'm now wondering if that is why she lost the baby back in Sept.

Where does one go to RETIRE from "the Family?"






6 comments:

  1. I'm sure Debby you and your hubby will find your new routine. I hear it is a common theme for couples when the hubby retires and the wife finds him home all day in once what was her domain. I'll be experiencing that tomorrow as hubby starts his retirement after he finishes that day at work. Added to the fuel I got fired on 10/30 so I really don't know how we are going to make it all work, but I'm not really worried. We managed well when he was not working for 4 years and I was working at home. He gave me space. We talked a lot about what we both expected from his retirement, etc., then I got that added "benefit" of being fired. We talked about division of chores (I had done all before since he was working so hard, now we'll split them). He does like to micro manage me at times when we are out and about and I have to remind him more than once that I am not his employee. Our biggest issue is we'll have to make sure we aren't out doing things costing a lot of money since income went down a bit more than we expected with me being fired. Sorry to hear about Foodie's and Navy's disagreement; hope they can work things out.

    You'll be fine; it will just take time.

    betty

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  2. Mrs. C sends me to the basement to watch TV, play guitar, work out on the total gym and practice putting. If I interrupt her routine she sends me back.

    Works for us.

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  3. I am not married now but I was. My ex went every morning but Sunday to Tudors-a restaurant in WV-I live in Indy now near family-anyway. I have traveled all over his country in The last 30 years-trust me in every Macdonald's one will also find a group of men eating and discussing world affairs-just like in Tudor's. The price of 3-5 dollars a day worth it!!!! My ex was a singer and worked on his music-we kept jigsaw puzzles going always...I have tons of hobbies and am an avid reader. He had the yard to do. I cleaned and did laundry and cooked-kitchen my domain!!!!! Men stay out!!!!My best friend and her husband split the chores when he retired. That would be nice. We bought movies in used stores and watched in the evenings-I don't like television because of the commercials. On Saturdays when there was football, I fixed food and we watched while I did needlework. There are a million things you and husband can do! My friend is now her husband's caregiver and wishes they could do those things. Embrace this new normal in your journey with your hisband! I love your blog!!

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  4. Aww...Debby---I Hear you. Hubby retired,too, and it is hard going. I feel like I have lost all my privacy and I am still working (until the end of the year). I retired several years ago and then went back to work. Retirement is not all it is cracked up to be....lol...Hubby is that 'take charge' person, too. Drives me batty. lol
    Hope the family all mends their differences and things smooth over. xo Diana

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  5. I love retirement. Eleven years of it now. But I retired to an empty home. When I was working, one of my staff was a part-timer. Her husband retired and started telling her everything she did wrong. Laundry, shopping, mashing potatoes, etc. She was ready to work full-time. Maybe you should act like the Admiral of the house.

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  6. I'm looking for that place too. Sending you a hug

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