Sunday, August 18, 2019

Reality scare




Yesterday my husband comes pulling into the driveway - when he was supposed to be at work. First thing I thought was that his 93 yr old dad had finally passed. No. He left work, due to chest pains! So we get things together so I can drive him to the emergency room. Then we sit from 11:00 till around 4pm when they released him. Tests revealed no heart event. My diagnosis is ANXIETY. He'll see his cardiologist next week.

He has gotten himself into a tizzy about retiring. At first, he was all for it, until he realized that his numbers were off. Okay, so we'll have $1000 less a month. I know, that is a lot and can make the difference between a healthy retirement and barely scraping by, especially here in California. But what can you do? He's had it. He's allowed his boss-lady to totally screw him up, by retiring earlier than he would have. There are no jobs available for him to transfer to and she is going nowhere! He's so hell-bent to retire early that he is willing to take a menial job - just to get out.

Oh, we'll be fine. He will get a sizeable lump sum - we can pay off our dental bill.

The other part of the reality scare is that one day - it won't be anxiety. I won't think about that now.

I'm the calm one. He is all over the place lately. Even with the lesser income, I am not afraid. I've had to scrap to get by in my younger days; as a single mom with 3 sons. So I know how to do it. I admit, we'll be cutting it close - but you can't force a person to continue to work if they just can't. If he doesn't retire, I do fear he'll have a heart attack with all the anxiety he is having. I just wish he would make a freaking decision and then stick with it.

It will all work out. His retirement date (tentative) is the first Friday in Jan 2020. That's probably when I will drop dead from all of his stress that I tend to keep to myself (except for this blog)

Lord, help me!

10 comments:

  1. You know, I know exactly how your husband feels since I'm going through the same thing at work with working under terrible circumstances but still feeling I have to work. I get the anxiety thing because I face it every morning when I'm checking my work email. I'm sure your hubby will be able to find something else he might want to do after he retires and bring in a little more income too. We majorly cut back for 4 years when hubby quit a job to move back closer to help out his parents and then it took him 3 years after they passed to find a job in his field again. We did fine cutting back. You know how to do it since you did it when you were a single mom. My mom was one too and she taught me great budgeting. Its a shame about his supervisor. Seems like your hubby is a good worker and he is being pushed out because of her. Just not right.

    betty

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    1. Yeah she's a witch. Makes me mad

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  2. The money is one thing, change of any kind is also difficult. Health is the most important thing.

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    1. Change is harder the older you get, but we're not that old yet. And YES, health and mental health is more important.

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  3. I retired at 62. That was eleven years ago. I would not be writing this if I had stayed as the stress would have taken its toll. Hostile work environments can be deadly. You'll manage as many others do.

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    1. The boss lady is making it a hostile work environment for not just my husband but for the rest of the security team.

      Yes, we will manage just fine. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  4. My dad retired early and mum was a little worried about how they would cope finacinally but they did manage somehow.

    Sometimes the work enivroment is just not worth the job

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    1. Yeah. and I think all the articles that scare you on retirement have their own motives.

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  5. I have been retired now for 6 years and have never felt better. It is surprising how little you need to live on when not working as you don't have the expenses relating to working, e.g. clothes, entertainment but also more time to prepare food at home from scratch. I don't spend much on entertainment but do have more time to spend with friends. I am sure you will find retirement is good.

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    1. We're looking forward to it.

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Comments are good - I admit, sometimes I don't respond back, in time for a dialog. I bad! I will TRY and do better. Thanks for understanding.

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