Friday, February 23, 2018

Oh the Struggle




I am not a naturally sweet and kind person. It takes a lot of EFFORT. My instincts are to be sarcastic and bitchy. I'm working hard NOT to be like that in my old age. The old ladies I used to look up to as a kid, were the cute little old ladies. I liked them because they may be sweet, but deep within them, were fighters. They were strong-willed and could handle anything that came their way without groaning and moaning about it. That's how I want to be.

Like I said, it's hard though. People bug me sometimes and my resting bitch face that I inherited from my mom worked great when I had little boys- I could flash them my "mean mommy look" and they knew not to mess with me. Thankfully I never had to lay a hand on them. Now I find when I am standing in the grocery line, the cashier apologizes to me. I'm like, "It's okay"  It's that mean look revealing itself once again.

So I've been purposely trying to have a resting smile, on my face. It's almost a habit now but all too quickly I can revert back to my default witch face. I notice how many people smile back at me, instead of clearing a path AWAY from me. Even though on the inside, I'm still in one of those "people bug me moods." If they don't approach me for anything, we're all good. I'm as nice as I have to be.

Friends who know me, say I am sweet and nice but they also know I can handle myself and have when the occasion arose.

What about you? What is your default resting face? Are you sweet and nice? Or should I run when I see you?


12 comments:

  1. Just relaxing or deep in thought I have been told that I look angry, out among people though I smile and speak to most everyone that I pass and generally end up talking to someone that I never knew before, Cindy says that I am the only person she knows that can make a friend no matter where we go.

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    1. That's like my husband. Good trait to have.

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  2. I'm not sweet and nice! For the most part people annoy the crap out of me. That's why I like to spend the most time with myself, alone!! Good post

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  3. I am laughing a little bit reading this, Debby. One of my son's school teachers once told me that I looked like I knew a joke on someone but was keeping it to myself. I have been told I have a 'smiley' face. However, I grew up with a dad that had a smiley face, too.

    Keep working on it- it will become a habit and you will have to remember to frown when you need to...lol

    Have a smiley weekend- xo Diana

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  4. Debby, I want to be a nice lady too. So I smile lots and say nice things. I have a couple sisters who are very negative at times...and I know I sure do not want to be like them. God help me. I hope I still have inside me the strength I needed to raise my four daughters and get a good job and almost have to fight for my rights everyday...as I worked with mostly men . Stay strong inside and wear a big smile honey. Blessings to you, xoxo, Susie

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  5. Oh I definitely have a resting bitch face. When I got into politics, the first thing someone said to me was 'Smile'. I was like 'About what and what for?' Then someone said they voted for me cause I had a nice smile. No wonder our country is in such a mess, lol. I am definitely not a warm and cuddly person. I mean business and have a reputation as being a bitch. So be it. Scarlett is one of my heroes.

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  6. I love this post! I do not have RBF. I am one of those who has a constant smile and let me tell you ... it has gotten me into trouble more than once. I WISH I could do a resting bitch face and then pull out the smiles when I'm comfortable that the new person I've just met isn't going to take advantage of my niceness. It's VERY hard to reel in a happy face when someone takes advantage of it. So. In conclusion, I admire those who can hold out in situations to make sure it's safe. I know this may seem an odd thing to say but I work in an environment where taking advantage of other people's kindness can be dicey.

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    1. Wow. I had no idea the struggles of those with smiley faces. You make more friends than I do. People are always apologizing to me. andI feel bad for them, thinking I am going to bite their head off.

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Comments are good - I admit, sometimes I don't respond back, in time for a dialog. I bad! I will TRY and do better. Thanks for understanding.

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