Tuesday, January 02, 2018

No word, no resolution.Just taking it one day at a time.




I'm such a rebel. No resolutions, no special word for the year - nothing - NADA! I try and take the 365 days, one day at a time. All that NEVER works for me.

Recently I had been having dreams about an old friend of mine. We met at a company we both worked for in San Francisco, when I was 19 and she was 20. We had so much in common that we went on to be best friends through our marriages and 7 children. Then we slowly drifted apart which was probably more me, than her. The dreams were that she had moved and I had to find her before it was too late. I slept on that for a few days; told my husband and decided maybe I should contact her. I decided that if I do re-connect, I better make sure I don't flake out on her again. Nobody deserves that kind of friendship. Sure enough, she had moved and I did an online search for her and found her new address. I wasn't 100% sure it was her but had a good feeling since one of the residents in her home was her sister. I recognized her name. I sent off a letter, with my phone number and waited.

While I was waiting, I thought maybe she doesn't want to reconnect. How would I feel about that? I knew we would not get back like we used to be because we have changed and gone through many years apart growing in different directions. But she was a very important person in my formative young adult years and I wanted to touch bases and let whatever happens, happen.

On Saturday, she called! We talked for over 6 hours on the phone and it was wonderful. She now lives about 2-3 hours from me, in the Gold Country. We caught up with our families, our children and she has 4 grandchildren, with another one on the way. She babysits 2 of her young grandchildren, Monday-Friday - while her daughter and son-in-law work. She lives with her sister who just retired from teaching. They both went in together to buy their home.

Our renewing of friendship will be gradual. She has her life and I have mine but I do look forward to this year and many more, of continued friendship, so yeah...I'm kinda excited!

Maybe I do have a New Year word for 2018.  RECONNECT. TOUCHING BASES. Maybe it's not just a word, it's a theme. To touch bases with those friends and family from my past.

You think??????????



12 comments:

  1. Glad you took a chance and reconnected.

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  2. Oh my goodness!!! Yes, that is definitely your word for the year! Great post. Can't wait to hear more about this. I have several friends like this. Two of my old high school buddies and I are now traveling partners. We've gone on annual trips four years in a row now and it has been a fantastic reunion for us. One lives in Alaska, the other in Montana and I live in Washington.

    Happy New Year! I look forward to reading more of your posts this year.

    Susan
    www.freezerburned-suddenlysusan.blogspot.com

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    1. TRaveling buddies- that sounds like fun.

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  3. I don't have resolutions or a new word for the new year either, Debby. I just try to be the best me I can. That's great that you reconnected with your friend after all these years. You really went out of your way to try to find her, so I hope you both are able to get together sometime.

    Although I'm taking a break from posting, I will still come over and visit your charming blog, and come by any time when you see that the girls posted. They're pretty much like me, only younger with more energy. : )

    Happy New Year!

    ~Sheri

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    1. That's cute - younger with more energy!

      You will be missed.

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  4. Wow. It is almost like a post I could have written. I have never made resolutions or chosed a word for the year. But last month I sent a Christmas card to someone I worked with in the 70's. We stayed in touch until the mid-80's- she was even my youngest's godmother- but then we drifted apart. I also found her online. She now lives a few towns over and we hope to get together this month. I am looking forward to it.

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    1. Oh gosh- this old friend I wrote about, I am her youngest daughters God-mother and a lousy one at that. I feel guilty and I am not even Catholic! We just for whatever reasons, had to take a few seasons off from each other.

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  5. I think a lot about the people I used to work with that were good work friends at the time. I'm not so sure I would ever reconnect with them, though. I have two old and very close friends and that's enough for me!

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    1. THis friend and I met at work, but we remained friends after we both had left the company because we really clicked. And we lived in the same town.

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  6. No resolutions for me as I am too lazy to bother with them, I take life one day at a time and kinda just go with the flow bouncing from one thing to another

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Comments are good - I admit, sometimes I don't respond back, in time for a dialog. I bad! I will TRY and do better. Thanks for understanding.

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