15 years ago, the husband and I married, in Seaside, Ca. It was a second marriage for both of us. I'm not a mushy person...but was thinking about a few things, about my marriage and this anniversary.
NEVER did I ever think, I would remarry again. I was enjoying my divorced/single life. In fact, the first month of our marriage, I was grieving my old life - going out with my girlfriends, hosting friends at my house and just being me. I loved my husband - it just took me awhile, to feel like a married couple.
It's quite the adjustment, after you have been divorced. My sons were overly protective and they didn't take too kindly, to him trying to take the place of their dad. My husband had to learn the hard way. We had to go to counseling due to a big argument and hurt feelings, with my sons. We got through it. He finally got it. Even though their father was a Dead-beat, they still loved him.
In the 15 years, we have had a lot of death. There for awhile, it was one HIT after another. Of course, the biggies, was my son a year after we married and my mom's suicide. That's when you know, you have a keeper. That man, could of split on me - My grieving was so intense.
We moved, 3 times in those 15 years. The first 4 years we lived in our 34 ft motor home - while we paid off debt and saved money. We had a blast! After that, we lived in a cute 1 bedroom apartment for 2 years. That was fun too. Then the final move, was after my Mom passed and we made the BIG decision to move 250 miles to the north - to live in my parents home. (I did not grow up in this home) We took a 45% drop in pay. It took us awhile to re-adjust to a simpler life. We bought out my sister's half and we've been here for 9 years and LOVE IT.
Now we're in our 60's. This is a good marriage. I knew in my first marriage at about 2 years, that I was in trouble. I stayed for 24 years and 3 sons. So, I know. Any rough bumps in the road, we are able to work through - the worst being, when our adult children lived with us for a few years.
|15 years later|
We made it through and now life is better than ever. We just have to stay healthy so we can grow old together.