Sunday, November 16, 2014

Not easy

It's not easy living with someone who has a mild mental disability. If it was full blown, it might be easier to deal with because I would know and get help on how to deal with them. However, in this case - I can never tell if she is being lazy or if she really doesn't know something or can't grasp it.

One thing: I catch her in fibs. Oh hell, lets tell it like it really is, LIES. She would rather tell a white lie, or let you believe something that is not true, than to tell the truth. The husband, tells me this is a safety mechanism that kicks in when she thinks telling the truth might lead to a confrontation which she tries to avoid at all costs and is why her ex husband saw the opportunity to emotional abuse her.  She also won't ever give a yes or no answer. It's always, "I think so" or "I don't know." Its driving me batty.

Sometime this week, she will be assigned a case-worker so she can get into some services to help her.

Really - I hate to sound off like this. But it isn't easy. I can't have a regular conversation with her because she agrees with everything I say - or pretends she knows exactly what I am talking about when she doesn't.

I still love her and want to help but I really don't know what I am doing. I don't know her as a mother knows their child. I want to. I want to understand her but I guess I don't have patience. I don't know how to get through to her. At times, she is in her own world.

I honestly can't imagine her ever getting married again. She shouldn't of in the first place. That marriage did her so much damage. 


  1. Who says we have to have all of the answers? Seeking outside resources is the wisest choice. It is hard, though, I’m sure. I understand that from my own personal experience.

  2. I've been trying to think of how to respond to you and the truth is, I have no clue what I would do if I were in your situation. My hat is off to you for handling things as well as you have for this long. All I can do is pray for you, dear. I hope that things get better.

    1. Thats okay, it was only a vent. Thanks for listening.


Comments are good - I admit, sometimes I don't respond back, in time for a dialog. I bad! I will TRY and do better. Thanks for understanding.

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