I guess I stuck my nose where it shouldn't go - it was bound to happen sooner or later.
I offered to buy Charleen some new jeans or a skirt - something new to wear for Thanksgiving. Nothing fancy, just something that wasn't the same thing she wears day in and day out. She is wearing a size 16/18 and they just look so big. But when she tried on a 14 it was too tight. She likes to wear really baggy jeans, boot cut - with the jean cuff turned up and with tennis shoes. A T-shirt that hangs on her and a fleece jacket all the time. Even if it is 70 degrees, she wears it. It has paint on it and looks dirty. I suggested a few things, but she didn't like any of it. Just basically the same old thing. She told me she even got married in jeans and a t-shirt! She says, she is "just a jeans and t-shirt kinda gal." I consider myself a jeans kinda gal - jean pants, jean skirts, denim, chambray - but I do like them to fit nice. I like boots or clogs and I do like leggings and am glad they are back in style. I used to be a clothes horse in my younger day. I do like dresses but funky ones. My style is eclectic-funk.
She apologized to me, for disappointing me. Oh gosh I felt so bad. I hadn't realized I was stressing her out and she just doesn't want to change. I hugged her and told her I was not disappointed and that I will lay off. I only wanted to buy her a nice outfit.
So I feel like a heel. I know they have had a rough 2 years - and like she told me, she had to adapt to her situation. Plus up in Washington State, I have to admit - so many people up there dress drab. Must be the weather.
I just never had a daughter - and I guess I was wanting to "doll" her up. She has the basics - heck every woman has the basics! I want to braid her hair - she has shoulder length dull brown hair that she hardly ever keeps combed. That's it. I thought maybe getting it up off her face - with a little eye makeup and I would take her picture. Then we could buy 2 dollar-tree frames, put the picture in the frames and she could send one up to her mom and to Roy for Christmas.
It's back to the drawing board....