Thursday, June 06, 2013
Another Bonus Post
Baby showers are boring - I don't care for them anymore. I only stayed about 45 minutes and then snuck out. They held it at this little tea house which was cute. I'm not a big talker so all these women, yapping their jaws...how can some talk like that? As it was, the whole experience just drains me. Plus I started to get a headache.
We were all talking about grandchildren - which I do not have yet. So I mentioned that my niece was due in early Nov. So the gal next to me, asked if we knew the sex and I told her we don't - but my sister and I are hoping for a girl - because the father is a practicing Muslim and in that culture, the man names the son. The wife names the daughter. So my great nephew could be a Muhammad, Abdul, Abbas, etc... My goodness, if looks could KILL. She looked at me. All the women at the table kinda got quiet....asked me where she lives. I guess she thought she lived in the middle east - I told her, Sacramento. Still quiet.
While she or the other women at the table did not openly bash my niece or Muslims, I am still protective of my family and I could feel the icy reception. Yeah well, I wish my niece was not marrying a Muslim man - I was not surprised. After all, it was my sister who married a Muslim man and started that new "family line" so Nissa naturally gravitated toward that. Bottom-line - its her choice. She is pretty tight within the community there and so she is protected. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't concerned for her and the baby, especially if he is a boy...with so many red-blooded Americans ready to pass judgement on every Muslim they see and sadly, I see it getting worse.
I know I didn't have to mention it., but why not? I love my niece just as they all love their loved ones - plus I thought it was a interesting tidbit to share. I can't help it if they are all Islamophobic!
I remember all this when my sister was married to Abbas. The comments and "terrorist jokes" and all. It got annoying because the more I got to know that side of the family, the more I observed a very intelligent group of people. I truly enjoyed them and they accepted me even as a Christian. Sure family dinners were interesting but if I was at their home, I was pleasant and if they were at my house, they were pleasant and respectful.
Just bugged me -
PS - my post from my other blog - when I first found out about my niece -
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